Before I started using these four steps, prayers were always very short. When I heard of people praying for hours, I just could not understand how they could pray that long. If I prayed for five minutes that was a long time for me. Then my mind would go racing ahead thinking of all the things that needed to be done. One day a friend started crying in church, and she went to the bathroom, so I decided to go comfort her. As she was talking to me she told me that God said ...."Daughter".... I don't remember what she said after the word "Daughter", but I do remember questioning. "God called you daughter?" I will always recall my astonishment when God softly spoke to me, "And if you would spend time with me I would call you daughter too!" It was then that I realized that God wanted a personal relationship with me!